help plz
18-06-06, 11:26 AM
Salamu alaikum
I am 19 yrs old and i used to go to a mixed school. During that time I got close to a muslim guy. I was 17 at the time. We used to talk on the phone all the time, but at first I only saw him as a close friend. I used to tell him all my problems, and he used to tell me his.
As things went along I found out that he liked me more than a friend. A year later I started to develop feelings for him. I forgot to mention we talked for 2 years straight.
Then my mum caught me one night talking on the phone to him. She always hated this guy. I went through hell for months. My mum prohibited me from everything. Talking to friends, going anywhere, everything. When she found out I did the most stupidest thing I've ever done in my life..... I took 10 strong tablets that were sitting in the medicine cabinet.
My mum knew what I had done. My intention was to get my mum to feel sorry for me, to get her attention, not to kill myself. Although that's what it sounds like. Anyway I didnt remember anything that happened that night. I eventually got help from someone close.
Then I started to learn about the religion. I stopped everything. Music, tight clothes,everything. Alhamdolilah I also wore a abaya. I put an end to the relationship I had with that guy. He was devastated because he had done nothing to hurt me. It took me a while to actually stop dialling his number. I'd find an excuse and I'd call him and then we were back on. I eventually did it.
But...... now one and a half years later I still think about him 24/7. I wake up his on my mind. I go to sleep his on my mind. Everything I do I'm thinking about him. Even sometimes when I'm praying I think about him, and I think that my prayers aren't excepted, but I can't help it. Most of the time I cry myself to sleep. I always give my mum attitude and answer her back. I try everything to change but I can't. I always ask Allah for help. I don't know what to do.
I am ready to get married. Two weeks ago someone came to see me but there was no naseeb. I'm just scared that if i do get engaged now, there's two things that can happen, I'm still going to think about that guy or Insha Allah I get over him and get married.
Please help me anyone. I don't want to be the person in my family that my mums always going off at. And I admit most of the time it's my fault. I don't get along with her at all. I want to change that but I don't know how. Please help me to get over this guy and to keep my mind on the religion. Please anyone help.
Sorry it's so long I just had to tell you the whole story.
Jazaku Allah Wassalam
I am 19 yrs old and i used to go to a mixed school. During that time I got close to a muslim guy. I was 17 at the time. We used to talk on the phone all the time, but at first I only saw him as a close friend. I used to tell him all my problems, and he used to tell me his.
As things went along I found out that he liked me more than a friend. A year later I started to develop feelings for him. I forgot to mention we talked for 2 years straight.
Then my mum caught me one night talking on the phone to him. She always hated this guy. I went through hell for months. My mum prohibited me from everything. Talking to friends, going anywhere, everything. When she found out I did the most stupidest thing I've ever done in my life..... I took 10 strong tablets that were sitting in the medicine cabinet.
My mum knew what I had done. My intention was to get my mum to feel sorry for me, to get her attention, not to kill myself. Although that's what it sounds like. Anyway I didnt remember anything that happened that night. I eventually got help from someone close.
Then I started to learn about the religion. I stopped everything. Music, tight clothes,everything. Alhamdolilah I also wore a abaya. I put an end to the relationship I had with that guy. He was devastated because he had done nothing to hurt me. It took me a while to actually stop dialling his number. I'd find an excuse and I'd call him and then we were back on. I eventually did it.
But...... now one and a half years later I still think about him 24/7. I wake up his on my mind. I go to sleep his on my mind. Everything I do I'm thinking about him. Even sometimes when I'm praying I think about him, and I think that my prayers aren't excepted, but I can't help it. Most of the time I cry myself to sleep. I always give my mum attitude and answer her back. I try everything to change but I can't. I always ask Allah for help. I don't know what to do.
I am ready to get married. Two weeks ago someone came to see me but there was no naseeb. I'm just scared that if i do get engaged now, there's two things that can happen, I'm still going to think about that guy or Insha Allah I get over him and get married.
Please help me anyone. I don't want to be the person in my family that my mums always going off at. And I admit most of the time it's my fault. I don't get along with her at all. I want to change that but I don't know how. Please help me to get over this guy and to keep my mind on the religion. Please anyone help.
Sorry it's so long I just had to tell you the whole story.
Jazaku Allah Wassalam