Istakarra

[Istakarra]

Salam Alakium

Can anyone tell me, like can we do Istakkara on someone to see if his good for you or not, so that you can marry him if Allah shows you a good sign??

Like what im saying is that i know someone who likes this guy but no one knows except me, anyways she wants to do Istakkara, so that if it isnt a good sign she could move on with her life, and if it is a good sign from Allah then she hopes to marry him. Is it possible for her to do this, or does the guy have to ask for the girls hand in marriage and then she can do Istakka??

Any suggestions on this please.

Assalam Alikom Sister

Our beloved prophet (S) taught us that Istekhara is good for us and that whenever we are confused between two matters or are undecisive on a matter we pray istekhara.

So your friend can definately pray istekhara on this matter insha Allah.

Istekhara is basically two rakkat of prayer, followed by the do33a found on this page:

http://islamonline.net/servlet/Satellite?pagename=IslamOnline-Arabic-Ask_Scholar/FatwaA/FatwaA&cid=1122528618520

I couldnt find the english version of the do3aa, but im sure some one out there has a copy that they can share with us

wassalam Alikom Warahmatullah

[under_cover]

Assalamou Alaicom!

Here's the english version and transliteration:

Translation:
Oh Allah! I seek Your guidance by virtue of Your knowledge, and I seek ability by virtue of Your power, and I ask You of Your great bounty. You have power; I have none. And You know; I know not. You are the Knower of hidden things.

Oh Allah! If in Your knowledge, (this matter*) is good for my religion, my livelihood and my affairs, immediate and in the future, then ordain it for me, make it easy for me, and bless it for me. And if in Your knowledge, (this matter*) is bad for my religion, my livelihood and my affairs, immediate and in the future, then turn it away from me, and turn me away from it. And ordain for me the good wherever it may be, and make me content with it.

Transliteration:
Allahumma inni astakheeroka bi ilmik. Wa'astaq-diroka biqodratik. Wa'as'aloka min fadlikal-azeem. Fa'innaka taqdiru wala aqdir. Wata lamo wala-a lam. Wa'anta-allamul ghuyoob.

Allahumma in ****a ta lamu anna (hathal-amra*) khayul-lee fi deenee wama ashi wa ajila amri wa'ajilah, faqdorho lee, wayassirho lee, thomma-barik lee fih. Wa'in konta ta lamo anna (hathal-amra*) sharrul-lee fi deenee. Wama ashi. Wa ajila amri. Wa'ajilaho. Fasrifho annee. Wasrifnee anh. Waqdur leyal-khayr haytho kan. Thomma ardini bih.


* When making the du'a, the actual matter or decision should be mentioned instead of the words "hathal-amra" ("this matter").

* After doing salat-l-istikhara, you may feel more inclined toward a decision one way or the other.

http://islam.about.com/blistikhara.htm

Sometimes its just a feeling, but usualy you have a dream.

All the best.

salam aalaykoum

in relation to this topic, i too have recently performed the istikhara. Now i feel very confused as i had a dream but i dont know what to do from there. Who can i get to translate the dream for me so that i know what decision to make?

Any help asap would be much appreciated :help:

Jazak allah kheir.

[fatman]

guest, are u confused from the dream, or it's just not what u wanted?

[Expired]

salam aalaykoum

in relation to this topic, i too have recently performed the istikhara. Now i feel very confused as i had a dream but i dont know what to do from there. Who can i get to translate the dream for me so that i know what decision to make?

Any help asap would be much appreciated :help:

Jazak Allah kheir.

:as:

I have read an answer from the Sheikh a while back about dreams, and he has said that the best person to translate a dream is the one who has had the dream.

Thought you might like to read this, It also explains how istikhara works....

Source: Mufti Sadek Sahib

WHAT IS ISTIKHAARAH?

Istikhaarah is to seek guidance from Allah when one is faced with a problem to which no solution is apparent.

Whenever a person is faced with a difficult problem, or becomes hesitant in making a decision and his knowledge of the matter is insufficient to guide him then after seeking advice from trusted friends he should turn to Allah and beseech His grace. He should willingly and with an open heart and mind supplicate for divine guidance and ask for direction so that the problem is solved in his own best interest. The Du'aa at such an occasion is called Istikhaarah.

Istikhaarah is in fact an invaluable teaching of Rasulullah (Sallallaahu Alayhi Wasallam) with which the Muslims have been favoured. This blessing could give solace to many for all times to come. It is related in the Hadith that Rasulullah (SAW) use to teach the Istikhaarah to the Sahaabah (RA) like the Qur'an is taught to children. In another Hadith it is stated that 'He does not fail who makes Istikhaarah and he does not regret who makes Mashwarah (consultation).

In the Masnoon Istikhaarah, after one has carried out his responsibility as best as one can, one should hand over the entire matter and oneself to the limitless knowledge of Allah Ta'ala. By resorting to Istikhaarah one is now retrieved of making a decision on ones own.

Whenever counsel is sought from a respectable and experienced person, it is expected that he will give good advise and assist to the best of his ability. Similarly Istikhaarah is to seek counsel that the all-Knowing and Merciful Allah? Once Istikhaarah is made then Allah Ta'ala will surely guide him to do what is best for him.

Now there can be no perplexity. Only that will happen which Allah Ta'ala wills and which is good for ones own sake though one may not be able to see it immediately. It is not necessary that one must experience or see an evident change or vision. Allah Ta'ala alone knows what is best for His servants. It is related in the Hadith that 'Success and good tidings for the son of Aadam (Insaan) is in performing Istikhaarah and his misfortune lies in not making Istikhaarah'.

METHOD OF ISTIKHAARAH

When making Istikhaarah begin with performing two Rakaats Nafl Salaat. Then with all sincerity recite the following Du'a.

Allaahumma innee astakheeruka bi ilmika wa-astaqdiruka biqudratika wa-as'aluka min fadhlika al-adheem. Fa innaka taqdiru walaa aqdiru. Wa ta'lamu walaa a'alamu wa anta allaamul ghuyoob. Allaahumma in ****a ta'lamu anna haadhal-amr khayrun liy fiy deeniy wa-ma'aashiy wa-aaqibat amriy, fa'qdruhliy wa-yassirh liy thumma baarik liy feehi. Wa in-****a ta'lamu anna haadhal amr sharrun liy fiy deeniy wa-ma'aashiy was-'aaqibat amriy. Fa asrifh annee wa-srif 'anhu. Wa aqdurh liyal khayr hayth kaana thumma a-rdhiniy bihee

Trans: O Allah!! Behold I ask You the good through Your Knowledge, and ability through Your Power, and beg (Your favour) out of Your infinite Bounty. For surely You have Power; I have none. You know all; I know not. You are the Great Knower of all things. O Allah! If in Your Knowledge this matter be good for my faith (Deen), for my livelihood, and for the consequences of my affairs, then ordain it for me, and make it easy for me, and bless me therein. But if in Your Knowledge, this matter be bad for my faith (Deen) for my livelihood, and for the consequences of my affairs, then turn it away from me, and turn me away therefrom, and ordain for me the good wherever it be, and cause me to be pleased therewith.

While reciting this Du'aa when one reaches HAADHAL AMR (THIS MATTER) at both places he should think of his problem.

May Allah guide and assist us all, Aameen. Allah(swt) knows best.

Need Help? Do Istikhara for any purpose. But for marriage, inshaa'Allah read below.....

Istikhara for Nikah (marriage)

When intending to marry someone then even before proposing or expressing one's intention to propose, do the following:

1. Perform Wudhu (Ablution)
2. Offer 2 rakat Nafl salah
3. Recite the following Dua:

Transliteration:

Allaahumma innee astakheeruka bi ilmika wa-astaqdiruka biqudratika wa-as'aluka min fadhlika al-adheem. Fa innaka taqdiru walaa aqdiru. Wa ta'lamu walaa a'alamu wa anta allaamul ghuyoob. Allaahumma in ****a ta'lamu anna haadhal-amr* khayrun liy fiy deeniy wa-ma'aashiy wa-aaqibat amriy, fa'qdruhliy wa-yassirh liy thumma baarik liy feehi. Wa in-****a ta'lamu anna haadhal amr* sharrun liy fiy deeniy wa-ma'aashiy was-'aaqibat amriy. Fa asrifh annee wa-srif 'anhu. Wa aqdurh liyal khayr hayth kaana thumma a-rdhiniy bihee

* While reciting when one reaches haadhal-amr (at both places) you should think of your problem.

Translation:
O Allah!! Behold I ask You the good through Your Knowledge, and ability through Your Power, and beg (Your favour) out of Your infinite Bounty. For surely You have Power; I have none. You know all; I know not. You are the Great Knower of all things. O Allah! If in Your Knowledge this matter be good for my faith (Deen), for my livelihood, and for the consequences of my affairs, then ordain it for me, and make it easy for me, and bless me therein. But if in Your Knowledge, this matter be bad for my faith (Deen) for my livelihood, and for the consequences of my affairs, then turn it away from me, and turn me away therefrom, and ordain for me the good wherever it be, and cause me to be pleased therewith.

thanks for the replies.
I feel very confused about the situation which i am currently facing.
I performed the Istikharah for a marriage issue and i had dreams. I dont know what to do from there, as i dont know if the dreams mean something good or bad.



I have read an answer from the Sheikh a while back about dreams, and he has said that the best person to translate a dream is the one who has had the dream.

I've heard that too before but i dont understand how?? So then what does one do when you have a dream and urself dont know what to do?.
This marriage issue is relating a person who is a non-arab and my only concern is how my family/relatives will respond this this. i fear that i will go through a hard time.
I thought by performing the istikharah, maybe i would somehow find out if this person is good for me and my future.. but im only confused and dont know what to do!

[Expired]

:as:


This marriage issue is relating a person who is a non-arab and my only concern is how my family/relatives will respond this this.

The only thing I can say to this is....

I am an Australian who is married to an arab, I was welcomed and accepted by my husbands family 100%. I now speak fluent arabic, and am one of them ! I even cook arab food :P

If you are really worried about how your family will react then ask a hypothetical question to them.... something like "How would you feel if I was to marry a non arab ? " and see how they respond.

Put your trust in Allah and Allah will guide you.

I also found this...

When one is not clear about the result of the istikhara, the fuqaha mention that it is recommend to repeat it, upto 7 times if necessary (usually done on separate occasions). [cf: Radd al-Muhtar]

It is not necessary that you get a dream or even a "feeling." Rather, the istikhara is a prayer that Allah guide you towards that which is best (khayr) for you. If you do the prayer of guidance (istikhara) with the proper manners, the most important of which is to truly consign the matter to Allah and suspend your own inclinations, then Allah will make events unfold in the direction that is the best for your worldly and next-worldly affairs.

It is disliked to 'hasten' in seeking the answer to one's istikhara, like other duas, because the Prophet (Allah bless him & give him peace) said, "Your prayers are answered, unless you hasten, saying, 'I prayed, but no answer came.'"

One should be pleased with what Allah chooses for one, and not seek to follow one's whims after the answer to one's supplication becomes clear.

Source (http://qa.sunnipath.com/issue_view.asp?HD=1&ID=1056&CATE=4)

jazak allah kheir Unpredictable for ur reply
may allah reward you for your help
much appreciated
inshallah may allah help me =)