pArents!!!!!

[pwencess_of_islam]

since many of yous are parents

i have a question 4 u

y do u have to be so picky and look thruogh your childs personal stuff,including notes, diries????????

sory if im rude but i just dont understand parents......

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Well as a parent I normally wouldnt go thru my daughters/sons things but I can tell u that if I had fears my daughter/son was up to something, had changed in either personality or behavour I would look thru their things as well.

Many parents keep their eyes closed to long and then wake up years later to find out that their kid had been in trouble and when its just too late they try to fix it.

I know if I had nothing to hide then I wouldnt mind what my parents went thru and read, it is only when a child has something that dont want their parents knowing about that they have issues about their "private stuff"

Also when u urself are a parent, then u will understand why things are done the way they are, Sure u may say now i wouldnt do this or that etc... but thats now.

Ive seen both sides.

Also, maybe the parents came across these things by accident.

Anyway thats just my views as a parent.

Dont think we parents are out to get you or go against u, in fact whatever your parents do they do out of love.

I just pray that u can see it like that one day

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[pwencess_of_islam]

oh

but still it hard to belive thats what parents intentions are cuz im like "it's my stuff n all dat"

but i fink ur rite cuz i had a note in one of my books n my mum saw it.....

i got in BIG TRUOBLE!!!!!

how about everi1 else do u go thru da same thing??


or is it just me :oops:

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oh

but still it hard to belive thats what parents intentions are cuz im like "it's my stuff n all dat"

but i fink ur rite cuz i had a note in one of my books n my mum saw it.....

i got in BIG TRUOBLE!!!!!

Sis there is one thing that a parent never wants to see or even believe is that their daughter or even son could be going into a path that may lead them of the path of Islam.

Think about how you may feel if your son or daughter was hiding things from you ?

Would you not be worried ?

Would you not be concerned for their well being ?

Some parents do have difficulties expressing why they feel the way they do and why they feel that there is a need to "go thru ur things".

Even though it is ur stuff, you are still living under their roof and they honestly from where I stand only want the best for you.

If that note was something you got into big trouble for, then maybe you could use this time to look at your own life and try to see why u got into trouble and ways u can work on bettering urself ?

I will let u on into something that happened with me... one of my daughters I noticed to change, she became withdrawn and whenever I would ask her what was wrong she would say that "she was ok ". A few days later I was putting her clothes away when I came across a piece of paper in her drawer that mentioned she was being bullied at school.

Now I had tried my best to get her to open up to me and by chance I came across this paper she had written... It was only then that I knew what the problem was and how I could help her deal with these issues.

I didnt go snooping or spying, it was all just by chance that I came across it.... so sis sometimes in life things just happen by chance.

We may not like it, but in the end it may have been the best thing that could have happened to us.... even if at the time u dont think it is.

Anyway I pray that you are able to forgive ur parents, cause u know something we arent perfect either.... we like everyone else makes mistakes and maybe when things have settled down at home you may like to express to your parents how it made you feel to have them go thru ur things.

Inshallah Khair.

May Allah be with you always

ur sister in Islam

Unpredictable

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[khadijah]

assalamu alaykum


Great advice sis. my son isnt old enough to be in this position just yet, but when the day comes ill be doing the same thing inshallah.

A child may not always not that what they are doing is wrong or harmful but may choose to keep it from their parents for other reasons maybe embarrasment or such, i think if i know what my son is up to then when i feel the need to step in i would. probably subtley but definately let him know that i am worried and that i love him.


Its just as hard sometimes to be a parent as it is to be a kid, just remember that sometimes we dont have all the answers we need and will make mistakes but most of what you are going through we HAVE already been through sis.

i agree with sis unpredictable.

salams

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assalamu alaykum


Great advice sis. i agree with sis unpredictable.

salams

Jazakallahu Khair

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[XoomYa]

this is heaps late, but u asked sis pwencess
how about everi1 else do u go thru da same thing??

i don't.