Marriage????

[halima]

Assalamu Alaykum,

Well, I am only 18 year old now and lately, actually, for quite a while, even though that sounds so wierd for such a young age, I have been admiring people who are gettin married, and specially theses days I have been seriously thinking that I want to get married, But here is the problem I really want to study, finish my undregrad which I am in my first year now and grad studies. But The thing is that I am in a non muslim country right now , where even seeing a muslim is very rare, there are some of course, in my school, but they do not meet my expectation of a good very pious man. Actually, I have never seen a person who fits my expectation of good and very pious muslim who would help me get my deen the rightest possible. I want some advices, should I wait until I finish my undergrad at least, and try to avoid this though of marriage?
I know you might think that the problem is minor and probably that it is just some caprices from me, but it occupies my mind so much nowadays That I think I am in need of some advices, maybe people who are going through a similar thing or just people who have an opinion, though or advice to share,
JazakAllahu Khayran

[Expired]

:as:

Sister first of all I want to say that no issue is to minor to talk about, if it is on your mind and it preoccupies your thoughts, then that issue is important to you so hence it should be important to rest of the ummah... The Prophet :saws: said The Muslim Ummah is like one body. If the eye is in pain then the whole body is in pain and if the head is in pain then the whole body is in pain”

As for the issue about marriage...

It is advisable to get married early in life once the person, male or female, reaches the age of maturity and is not hindered physically and financially to do so. The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) is reported to have said:

`O young people, who of you is able to shoulder the responsibility of marriage let him get married. This will lower his gaze, and keep him/her chaste. Who is not, let him/her keep fast. For fasting will reduce the desire (or the physical pressure)'. If the hadith is making marriage conditional on the ability, financial or otherwise, the Qur'an encourages helping the poor get married, Allah most Gracious said: `And marry those among you, who are single, and those who are fit. If they are needy Allah will make them free from want, out of His grace, And Allah is ample giving, knowing' (24:32)

Here are some articles you may like to read thru...

Are you thinking about marriage? (http://www.sydneymuslimyouth.com/smyforum/viewtopic.php?t=3119)

Young, Married, and in School
Impossible? (http://www.sydneymuslimyouth.com/smyforum/viewtopic.php?t=3817)

Problems Youth Face in Getting Married Nowadays
(http://www.sydneymuslimyouth.com/smyforum/viewtopic.php?t=3168)

What Qualities to look for in a Partner for marriage ? (http://www.sydneymuslimyouth.com/smyforum/viewtopic.php?t=3524)

Sister I cannot tell you when you should or shouldnt get married, this is something that comes back to you and the timing that Allah has written for you to marry. Remain patient sis and Inshallah when the time is right you will be married.

Inshallah these have helped.

:wa:

[sacred_rose]

honestly i don't see why u want to get married it's not easy trying to be a housewife and a student and u shoudn't really be fussed about it ur still young u've got plenty of time to get married i rekon u should just focus on ur studies but then again if it's ur naseeb to get married now then i we can't really do anything so don't stress just leave it in allah's hands coz only allah knows what good for u :):):)

[MrWarraEnib]

All the best sister with what you decide

[Fatoum]

i had a friend who was in a similar situation, and was confused as well, all she did was make istikhara and kept praying to Allah, i guess thats the best option, but i mean ur young and i think u should focus on ur career, marriage will come on its own and plus if u were ready to get married u wouldnt be so confused bout it all, when its ur naseeb that u cant runaway from it, but anyways at the end of the day its upto u and i hope whatever u decide all goes well for u

[MrWarraEnib]

Theres a arabic song from memory and it said Nassibak Hayseebak ( translation is i think Fate will find who ) i think :) any correct me if im wrong.. but the meaning is true!!!

[AbdulQader]

Theres a arabic song from memory and it said Nassibak Hayseebak ( translation is i think Fate will find who ) i think :) any correct me if im wrong.. but the meaning is true!!!

Nice! Very true

yeah, seebak here is like 'will get you' (or will find you as u said)... with a 'Sad', it would mean ur naseeb will leave you if u write it with a 'seen' lol <== The latter is how I understood it when I first read it :rofl:

Wassalam

[halima]

JazakALLAH Khayr all for your replies really appreciated!!!

[Muslim..Priincess]

Sallams..


Make dua sis..Ask Allah to answer your Confusion..:)

[hassan.talib]

good luky all my berther and my sister

alah barak likom