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my parents argue alot

it upsets me ( somtimes sends me to tears)

like mum always wants to be right and dad screams at her

im the oldest sister in the family

is there anything i can do? i feel helpless been only 15


im so scared that my parents might get divorced

salam walikum sis,

make dua sis, talk to them. if they do this infront of you advise them cuz it affects u and if you have any other bros or sisters. they need to understand the effects on the children. some ppl dont care but its ignorance.

i had the same prob today. my mum was in the garage sleeping there and i asked wats the matter and she didnt say anything. i asked my dad and he laughed. i blasted him cause its my MUM. anywaz idono wat happend but im gona check now. umm being the man is responsability of the house. my parents are non muslim but still ... its a responsablilty.

make dua insha allah sis

salams

[mehyedin]

my salams to you sisters

may Allah make things easy for both of you and may He protect you and shower you with His mercy and all the muslims

by Allah my heart is with you and I ask Him swt to strengthen you

be patient and remeber these tests compared to the tests of the prophet are very minor . Remember also that family issues happen to many families and that you are not alone in what you are facing

salam

[ANSWER]

i know its not islamic
somtimes divorce is the way out

[Ramo]

SOMETIMES

Although this question was submitted a while ago, I will respond to it anyway.

First of all, it is important to remember that you are in no way responsible or to blame for your parents' arguments, even though you are the oldest. They are both adults and are responsible for themselves.

It is normal to feel upset when you see two people who you love arguing and hurting each other (emotionally).

What can you do about it?

When your parents have calmed down, sit them both down and have a chat with them about how much you love them both, and how their fighting makes you and your brothers and sisters feel. If they are open to the idea, you might want to recommend they see a counsellor to sort out their issues.

You may find that although they argue, this doesn't necessarily mean they will divorce. It just means that they disagree on some things and might have some trouble expressing their disagreement without arguing.

Overall, it is important for you to know that their problems are between them and in no way are a reflection of you!

It is also good to talk about how you are feeling with someone you trust, a close friend or relative. You will find that it helps to talk it over with someone. You may also see a counsellor (maybe the school counsellor?) and have a chat about this, if you like.

Finally, make duaa to Allah to help you. Allah is always there and listening to our duaa.

Wasalams,
COUNSELLOR




my parents argue alot

it upsets me ( somtimes sends me to tears)

like mum always wants to be right and dad screams at her

im the oldest sister in the family

is there anything i can do? i feel helpless been only 15


im so scared that my parents might get divorced

[izn0g00d Guest]

to the consellor: well assalamualaikum
i have a low esteem of people who talk about famiy problems without having been in serious family prob themselves....well conselor ur advice were very good.
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well personally it depends if your parents give you such importance or statue to talk to them freely.
if that is the case MashaAllah.

but if its not means u cannot take the straight path that goes straight to the solution.

well i think its ur duty as memeber of the family to solve issues among other members of the family regarless ur age. but i think somtimes it comes to a pount that only Allah can remedy to the situation....so keep asking Allah to make the situation better, while trying on ur side and making efforts to make things better.........it works same way as exams.....u need to revise/work and ask Allah to pass ur exams.

well i cannot say much..i hope wat i said was not bullocks.....anyway if u need help am here for you

[Halz]

sista, be patient mke dua and remember, this is all a test! the more harder your tests are, the more allah loves you! may allah grant u janaat sista! ameen :saws:

I feel sorry for u sis in islam :cry: make your parents Happy :D :D