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27-03-08, 09:23 AM
Do you have a problem with a muslim sister who wears tight jeans ?
If so, how would you approach her to tell her
07-06-08, 12:16 PM
Im assuming you mean tight jeans in public sista?
Well, in all honesty, I wouldn't do anything drastic for fear of getting a blue eye, but I would try to befriend the sister and as time passes on we can get the talks rolling....
Thats just the method I use, I wonder if there are any sisters who would actually go up and tell em whats on their mind?!?
07-06-08, 02:06 PM
Im assuming you mean tight jeans in public sista?
Yep sis thats what I mean, and even more so the sisters who wear tight jeans with short tight fitting shirts and hijab
07-06-08, 02:53 PM
AsSallamu alaykum Wr Wb..
It's a hard step to do-no doubt..
i would probably talk her thhrough it in a "good" way as much as i can..and if i can have strong evidance to convince her..
personally i think that the person who is wearing the tight clothes is going to realise her mistake- and she's the only one who can change it.
i think all we can do is to point it out, notto to be annoying...i really don't know. i need adivse on this myself!!
07-06-08, 10:00 PM
Heres a thought why dont we pull together some ideas and resources together so that if we are ever faced with this situation we would know how to handle it ?
Maybe even more so take it on board for a lesson ourselves ?
Do you have any idea how you may approach a sister ?
if so share it with us !
.: Edit :.
I shall start off Inshallah !
One-on-one sit down Da’wah
• Setting: A detail oriented theological discussion
• Usually pre-planned
• Begin with how much the person knows about Islam.
• You may have time, but still use it wisely!
• Listen; Don't interrupt and let them finish
• Common Problem: If they repeat an argument, rephrase and say it back to them
• If the person has studied Islam find the core issue that is keeping her from Islam.
07-06-08, 10:19 PM
Here are some other tips we might like to consider
• Make a sincere effort to get to know them first so that you can develop a trusting relationship. This effort will help you understand the reason why they might not be practising and also encourage them to listen to your wisdom about why they should be more practising.
• Invite them to outings with other practising Muslims
• Give advice in the best Islamic manner and when appropriate. Although it is the duty for a Muslim to advice another Muslim, if it is not done in the proper way, then it can lead to a negative outcome.
• Be sympathetic, patient and not judgemental: a negative and intolerant attitude will lead to ineffective Da’wah.
• Realise that just because they are Muslim does not mean they have enough knowledge therefore it is our duty to raise awareness and knowledge.
• Present Halal alternatives to them during times when there is a lot of temptation around them, for example during Freshers’ Week, Valentine’s Day, holidays etc.
• Remember that we all can learn something from others, whether they are non-Muslims or not-practising Muslims, therefore be aware that your relationship with them can also teach you something, a thought which will Insha’Allah keep us humble and steadfast.
• Make Dua for them; “The quickest prayer to be answered is a man’s supplication for his brother in his absence.” [Sahih Bukhari]
07-06-08, 10:21 PM
Here is a list of things why we may find it hard to speak to sisters about anything to do with their Islam, esp their dress ( ya I know I am trying to keep on topic :Dembarressed)
Why you might find it difficult?
Effort has been made to outline few reasons why a person might find it difficult to do Da’wah. If you agree with some of them then do not worry, you are not alone. Often when thinking of doing Da’wah, a person can start worrying about many things due to the whispers of the Satan or the weakness of the Nafs.
Insha’Allah, with every point there is advice on how to deal with it so that the reader can learn from it and overcome this.
Disappointed as you want to see immediate results; something which is not always possible
A Da’ee should be patient and comfortable with the thought that they are here merely to pass the message. He/she are not required to achieve victory for the Islamic reality, for its realization depends upon the decree of Allah (SWT).
Don’t think you have enough knowledge
"Convey from me, even one verse." [Sahih Bukhari]. As we will all be judged according to our knowledge, we should make effort to relate what we know. If you want to stand at a Da’wah stall, however do not feel you have enough knowledge; possibly it would be wise to be at the stall with someone who knows more. This way you can avoid uncomfortable situations and also gain knowledge from the learned person.
Too shy to talk - “I would rather jump into the pool with my clothes on”
If you sincerely want to talk about Islam with someone, Allah (SWT) will aid you towards this. Start supplicating to Allah (SWT) to help you. The supplication from the Noble Qur’an is ideal for this situation:
“O my Lord! Expand my breast for me, And make my affair easy to me, And loose the knot from my tongue (That) they may understand my word” (Al-Qur’an 25-28).
They won't revert so what’s the point!
As a Muslim, we should always live in faith of Allah (SWT)’s Mercy on us and his creation.
People might think that I am strange or old-fashioned because I am talking about religion
The reader should really analyse themselves if think this is the case as this thought can only stem from not being proud of being a Muslim in a non-Muslim society or not really understanding the wisdom behind some of its practices. The religion makes sense therefore when you communicate it in the right way to people; instead of thinking that you are ‘strange’ they will actually be in awe of your belief.
I need to work on myself first before I start calling to the non-Muslims/ other muslims
Anas relates that “We asked the Prophet, ‘O Messenger of Allah, shouldn’t we refrain from calling others to goodness if we don’t practice all good things ourselves, and shouldn’t we refrain from forbidding wrong things until we ourselves have obtained from all the bad?’. ‘No’, he replies, ‘you should call others to goodness even if you don’t do all good, and you should forbid bad things even if you don’t abstain from all of them yourselves.’” [Al-Tabarani]
Once you overcome the initial stages of wondering what people will say and what you feel are your own limitations, Insha’Allah this experience may increase your Imaan and make you feel more comfortable and proud of your own identity.
07-06-08, 10:23 PM
Etiquette – How to present yourself
Be polite and responsive. Give people what they need and when they ask for it.
Be modest but confident.
Be interactive. Ask questions to gauge understanding. Listen as we as talk.
Position yourself at the person’s level; stand up if they are standing or sit down if they are sitting
Dress modestly and (if possible) in an Islamic dress
. “Call to the way of your Lord with wisdom and fair preaching and argue with them in a way that is better” (Al-Qur’an 16:125)
. Study the Qur’an and Sunnah regularly.
. Always supplicate to Allah (SWT) for the success of the Da’wah, and for yours and others guidance.
. Give information in a simple convincing manner and take account of the background.
. Concentrate on the basics and avoid detail and differences of opinion.
. Avoid terms unfamiliar to non-Muslims as this will just confuse.
. Be aware of contemporary issues.
. Be a role model
* ‘Read the situation’
* Be sincere. Do not says things about Islam that do not exist.
* Lead the conversation
* Ensure you have good manners. For example when talking to someone stand up if they are standing or encourage them to sit down with you if there is a seat there.
* Have Sabr (patience); “So be patient (O Muhammad SAW). Verily, the Promise of Allah (SWT) is true, and let not those who have no certainty of faith, discourage you from conveying Allah (SWT)’s Message (which you are obliged to convey).” (Al-Qur’an 30:60)
* Contradict yourself. You don’t have to have an answer for everything. So be honest to defer replies until you find out properly.
* Waste time in useless arguments. Be aware when others are keeping you away from better use of your time.
* Get discouraged by attacks on Islam. This is the very nature of conflict between truth and falsehood.
* Answer a question without being certain about it. Take the person’s email and tell them you will get back to them with the response to their question after asking someone more knowledgeable.
* Don’t criticise or personalise
* Don’t raise your voice
* Don’t be aggressive
* Don’t break your promises
* Don’t lie about anything and compromise your beliefs
* Don’t have a useless argument
Basic Knowledge of a Da’ee…
o Holds clear concept of Tawheed (Oneness of Allah (SWT)) and is able to explain it;
o Able to prove the Noble Qur’an’s Divine Origin
o Prove Prophet Muhammad’s (peace and blessings be upon him) Prophethood
o Understand why Islam is a complete guidance for all walks of life
All Above tips taken from Here (http://islamdawahacademy.com/effectivedawahtipsformuslims.aspx)
21-06-08, 10:38 AM
Fab tips there sista!
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