treating people

[LiL-RaMo]

salams counsellor,,

hala everyone now around me and its like kinda moving towards family are like treating me different for some reason and i dont like how im bieng treated hala these guys ( like really high religious blokes) are telling me dere not true muslims for the hadith says..

" HE IS NOT A TRUE BELIEVER TILL HE LOVES FOR HIS BROTHER WAT HE LOVES HIMSELF"

these guys ( like really high religious blokes) are telling me dere not true believers and/or its either that they like bieng treated like sh!t its either one of dem but i doubt its da second one and id just like to know how like am i supposed to cope with that and wat can i do to change it ... ?

for example counsellor....

I USE TO WORK IN A PLACE CALLED TTHE "......." AND LIKE I WORKED DERE FOR 5 YEARS....LIKE I HAVENT MISSED 1 DAY IN A YEAR I LL MISS LIKE 30 DAYS MAX AND LIKE I USE TO WORK DERE AND DIDNT GET PAID LIKE I MEAN DIDNT GET PAID.... SO AFTA THESE 5 YEARS SUM ISSUES HAPPENED WITH THESE GUYS ( like really high religious blokes) I MEAN REALLY BAD ISSUES AND THESE ISSUES AFFECTED ME PROBS MORE THAN ANYONE AND MADE ME TURN AWAY FROM DA RELIGION.. LIKE AFTA DAT I STARTED TO SWEAR LIL BIT BY LIL BIT BUT NOT THOSE HUGE SWEAR WORDS ONLY LIKE SH!T AND THINGS LIKE DAT NOW I SAID SH!T IN DIS "........." AND GOT BANNED DERE FOR 2 WEEKS...SO AFTA 2 WEEKS I WENT BACK AND I DIDNT GO DERE FOR LIKE 3 DAYS AND DEN THESE GUYS( like really high religious blokes) ACCUSE ME OF LOOKING AT PORN AND WALLAHI I DIDNT EVEN STEP OR EVEN TURN ON A COMPUTER DERE..... SO THEY BAN ME FOR A MONTH WHEN THAT WENT PAST I WENT BACK AND THEN THAY MADE SUM BULLSH!T UP TO GET ME BANNED AND NEVA COME BACK AND DEN SOMEHOW SOME WAY THEY DID... SO SINCE DEN I HAVENT GONE DERE...now the point is that since den none of dese guys( like really high religious blokes) will say SALAMS or will invite me to anything afta all ive done this is how they treat me...rite and not just dat like dis so called "......." is getting robbed now and then and guess wat THEY BLAME IT ON ME !! lak im only 14 man and wat they say this sh!t see how they treat me now and thats wat i wanna know how to cope with all this bullsh!t and wat i can do... ??




(Admin edited the name of the work place)
please please help this thing is annoying man not a day goes by without me been giving a dirty by these guys( like really high religious blokes) walahi !!!!

Salams LiL-RaMo,

When you are faced with an issue such as this, the best thing to do is to deal with it directly.

-speak to the person(s) that are making you feel this way.
-if you cant or dont want to speak to the person(s), then speak to someone who is in charge, maybe even the sheikh and let him/them know what has happened to you and why you feel the way you do. It is important that you tell someone within the organisation, someone who can actually make a difference to this situation. Be honest and open about everything because thats the only way things can be resolved.

You shouldnt be accused of something you haven't done. But if you know that you havent done anything wrong then you shouldn't be too concerned with what other people think. Be confident and don't allow peoples looks or talk to make you feel bad about yourself. If you know you havent done anything wrong, and of course Allah knows, then you shouldnt feel bad about anything.

Do your best to help them understand where your coming from. It is important that you try to rebuild the relationship between yourself and these brothers.. especially after all these years! If you try your ultimate best, and nothing is working - then its ok, and dont let it bring you down. Turn to Allah and He will look after you.

Try the above and PM me if you have further questions or need further advice..

Wasalams,
COUNSELLOR