do u have some advice ?

[norma]

as salamu alaikum dear brothers and sisters.

i am writing you this now because i hope for some cheering up or piece of advice. something that could make me feel better.

its been a few months since i am having health issues, today i found out that my mum is having the same problems. the problem is that i am so weak. i am so weak i could slap my face for my weakness. i know i have to put my trust in Allah. but somehow this doesnt make me feel better. i make myself believe that Allah wants to punish me. and iam so scared that he wont hear my dua, even though i know that its said that he answers every dua one makes.
i cant cope with the situation. i am very depressed and sad. i am sad from the bloody botttom of my heart. i make dua all the time, i make dhikr like im crazy. begging for strenght begging for patience begging for all of this to stop. and the problem is i am not patient. its been almost six months and thigns are getting worse and worse. what i have its not life threatining i hope so at least still its affecting myself in the worst way.
why is Allah doing this to me ? and how should i behave. how am i supposed to behave ?
today i found out that my mother has the same problem and that hurt me so bad and i think its so unfair. and i say to myself . why is he doing this to her. its enough that i have to go through it.

i know that most of what i have written right now could be considered haram. but what can i do. i am so depressed.
am i expecting too much from this life?

[Lysande framtidsutsikter]

as salamu alaikum dear brothers and sisters.

i am writing you this now because i hope for some cheering up or piece of advice. something that could make me feel better.

its been a few months since i am having health issues, today i found out that my mum is having the same problems. the problem is that i am so weak. i am so weak i could slap my face for my weakness. i know i have to put my trust in Allah. but somehow this doesnt make me feel better. i make myself believe that Allah wants to punish me. and iam so scared that he wont hear my dua, even though i know that its said that he answers every dua one makes.
i cant cope with the situation. i am very depressed and sad. i am sad from the bloody botttom of my heart. i make dua all the time, i make dhikr like im crazy. begging for strenght begging for patience begging for all of this to stop. and the problem is i am not patient. its been almost six months and thigns are getting worse and worse. what i have its not life threatining i hope so at least still its affecting myself in the worst way.
why is Allah doing this to me ? and how should i behave. how am i supposed to behave ?
today i found out that my mother has the same problem and that hurt me so bad and i think its so unfair. and i say to myself . why is he doing this to her. its enough that i have to go through it.

i know that most of what i have written right now could be considered haram. but what can i do. i am so depressed.
am i expecting too much from this life?


Salamo 3aleikom,

It must feel bad to have it like that on a daily basis. I hope it becomes better inshallah.
Have you tried to analyse your case and try to find out what makes you and your mother depressed? I think it might be easier for you to solve the problem if you can identifiy it and see where it came from orginally.

Wassalam.

[Openyoureyes]

Salamz

Sister, patience is the key

Allah has placed each and every one of is through different trials. Just keep remembering that this is a test from allah and you must be patient.

Try to excercise and move aroud a lot, especially in the case of bone problems such as arthritis etc

Keep in mind that there are millions out there who are in a much worse situation then the one you've been placed in. Theyre either living in poverty, have no parents to support them or are living in hunger on a daily basis.

Keep asking allah swt in your dua, NEVER GIVE UP!!! This is only satanic whispers from the shaytan. Increase your prayers, dua and fasting (if possible)

May alah make it easier for you inshala :]

[Unregistered]

Simple answer. May Allah make you feel better inshallah but Allah is only testing you. The fact that you are rememberring Him a lot adds to this meaning your Iman is strong therefore your test is harder. Remember Allah only tests you to your ability. Just be patient and whatever Allah puts you through, He will take you out of.

[salsabila]

Assalam Alaikum,

i agree with the others sis, be patient.

This is a test from Allah, so hold tight and be strong. Make Du'a sis, and we'll make Du'a for you too sis.

Remember the story of Prophet Ayyub (as) sis?


Ayyub (as) was one of the descendant of Ishaq (as). Allah had granted Ayyub (as) with wealth and a large family. Ayyub (as) was living in comfort and peace, when Allah decided to test Ayyub (as)'s Iman.

Suddenly lightening struck and killed all of his livestock, a storm destroyed his crops. Ayyub (as)'s house collapsed with his family inside, killing his children. Ayyub (as)'s Iman remained strong. Every time that he was inflicted with a new sorrow, he would bend down in submission acknowledging that Allah gives and Allah takes away. Ayyub (as) test continued. He became ill and he had ulcers over all his body, causing his flesh to rot off.

Several of Ayyub (as) companions left him. His wife was the only one that took care of Ayyub (as). She would find food and feed him. She would wash, and dress his wounds.

Soon the people of their town forced Ayyub (as) and his wife into the woods. Telling them not to come to the town. But Ayyub (as)'s Iman stayed strong. Ayyub (as) praised Allah for the little food and other provisions that Allah had given them.

Allah was pleased with the strength of Ayyub (as)'s Iman. Ayyub (as) soon recovered fully from his sickness, they returned to their land getting back the crops. Allah blessed Ayyub (as) with more wealth then he had before. In seeing how Ayyub (as) had recovered by staying strong in his faith. Ayyub (as) companions grew in number with added strength to their belief in Allah.

so the lesson here sis is to be patient, and the final reward is great.

May Allah bless you and your mother, and help you guys through this time difficult time Insha'Allah. and May he give you the strength to be patient and be strong, May both of you be granted the highest level of Jannah Insha'Allah. Ameen

Take care sister, i wish you a speedy recovery Insha'Allah.

Walaikum Assalam
salsabila

[Saabira]

The above replys are good. Maybe, if you still feel worse, you can see a Muslim psychologist, and tell her how you feel. There is one in Canterbury - Hanan Dover who works at psych central. Look up her details on the net.

Insha'Allah all goes well for you.

[salsabila]

hmm.. the sister is from Germany. so i don't think canterbury will help Ilma. hehe.

wasalam

[norma]

dear brothers and sisters.
jazakallahu kharain so much for your beautiful words ! the story of ayyub sa really touched me. may Allah give all your good words back ot you and your loved ones. may he reward you for every letter.

you know, i know about the testing. and i also know that those who are strong have harder tests. but have you ever been in the situation where you thought you couldnt cope anymore. when you start envying those who are not tested. or seem not to be tested.

sometimes ithink that i dont know how to be patient. should i ignore what is happening to me? should i thank Allah for it ? what exactly is patience? because i feel like i dont have it. instead i am getting worse and worse and more and more frustrated. and then again i hear and read about true muslims who are patient and do not become frustrated over certain matters. but how do i reach this state.

sometimes i think that Allah makes the tests harder and harder so that at the end i might win over it all. but the way to there scares the crap out of me.

could anyone give me a dua that one can say when you are afraid of life and death and sickness ?

how do you people cope with tests?

its all so hard. becaues i know most of the things. i know that one has to put all his trust in Allah. and i know the dua that says "give death to me when you think death is better for me... " but as sad as it is I do not put all my trust into him. and thats why i am in this lost situation.


dear sister ilma unfortunatly cantebury is not an option for me.

wasalaam

[salsabila]

Assalam Alaikum sister,

i know it's hard but Allah has to make the test hard for you. The hardness is to test how strong your Iman is. I understand you feel like giving in, but you need to hold on.

and all i don't know anything to help you with this test except Du'a. Make heaps and heaps of Du'a.

"The person who does not ask from Allah Ta’ala, Allah Ta’ala becomes angry with him."
[at Tirmidhi, Ahmad]

"If you ask, ask Allah and if you seek help, seek help from Allah."
[at Tirmdhi, Ahmad]

"And when my servants ask you concerning me, [tell them] I am indeed near. I respond to the invocation of the supplicant when he calls."
[surah 2:187]

"And your lord said, invoke me and I will respond to your invocation."
[Surah 40:60]

"Invoke Him only, making your religion sincere to him."
[Surah 7: 29]

"For any one among you, if the door of acceptance of du`a is opened, then the doors of His Mercy are also opened. The best du`a Allah likes is the one in which the caller asks for the goodness of this world and the goodness of the next world."
[at-Tirmidhi, al-Hakim]

So make Du'a my dear, thats the best thing you can do. Make Du'a for Allah do give you patience, make Du'a for Allah to strengthen your Iman, make Du'a for Allah to cure you and your mum Insha'Allah. Make Du'a for every single thing you need. Allah is there waiting for you, waiting for you to ask Him.

and maybe get up to pray Tahajjud sometimes.


AbuHurairah (may Allah be pleased with him) quoted the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) as saying:



“Our Lord descends to the lowest heaven during the last third of the night, inquiring: ‘Who will call on Me so that I may respond to him? Who is asking something of Me so I may give it to him? Who is asking for My forgiveness so I may forgive him?’” (Al-Bukhari)
Insha'Allah things will be all good for you soon. May Allah reward you and your mother, and grant you both the highest level of Jannah Insha'Allah

Walaikum Assalam
salsabila

[Lysande framtidsutsikter]

Salamat,

I would advice you to try to see why youre having these difficulties and try to make a plan to work it out. Every problem has a solution. See it as a challange that your glad to take on. Tackle it and win. I know that its harder than it sounds but really, try. Youlle be glad you did the day when you really feel great.
Exercise!, thats an awesome way for people to get in a better mood. Get together with your friends, have fun. Cook some nice food that you havent tried before and share n enjoy it with them. If it turns out bad, laugh at how bad it was! :)..i.e try to have fun and enjoy yourself at all times!.

Be cool with the thought that things arent feeling great at the moment, set out challanging goals that you want to achieve, and do everything in your power to reach them step by step.

Your a medical stundent mashallah!, think about how many people out there who would be thrilled to be in your shoes :)

So cheer up, sister! We all know that you can make it inshallah :)

Take care!

Fi amanillah wassalamo 3aleikom!

[norma]

my dear sisters, i dont have the words to describe how much !!! you gave me with your comments. jazakAllahu khairan so much ! u can not imagine how much i appreciate ur words.

its this life in a bubble that makes a person become like i have become- some chicken that thinks its all about this life.

there was a time, not long ago in my life, where i had lost my islam in the sense that i didnt make it to pray. i just couldnt make it, and it was such a great burden on me. and i was beggging Allah to help me, to make me patient, to give me strength, and i begged him to get back to me or me to get back to him.

and as much as it hurts me i think i have realized the fact that this difficult situation now is his answer to my prayers as he is the only one in the world i can turn to with my pain. and i see that it has changed me in the better way when it comes to practising my deen. but iam still struggling.

i want to share this website with you. its from a sister from canada her words are so beautiful and true and touching.

http://muslim-canada.org/health_sickness.html

wa salaamu alaikum wa rahmatullah wa barakatuhu

[Glory be to Allah]

Salam's

I cant say any thing somone hasn't already said (In a good way)

So I can just make du'a you will fell better.