Niqab

[Glory be to Allah]

May peace be upon you

I really really want to wear the Niqab but this is the problem

My mother doesn't want me to because we live in california and she thinks non muslims will treat me bad and yell at me and so on.

I dont know what my dad would want me to do yet because he is in UAE right now (my parents are not divorced my dad is just picking up my cousin so she can come live with us)

The thing is that it would be better if people gave me a hard time about wearing the niqab because then It would make me a stronger muslim and guide me closer to Allah (swt).

So my question is . . What should I do? Listen to my mom even though I really really really want to wear the niqab. Disobey her even though I know childen should never disobey there parents? My mom also says that I am not ready but I feel so confident that I am and inshallah Allah will make me stronger if I get weak. Is she right? Or should I just wait untill my dad gets back and see what he says?

Please help me. (and I'm so sorry that this is so long)

I'm so sorry if I'm acting selfish because I know there are plenty of people with non muslim parents who give them a really hard time about everything they do. May Allah bless them in the hereafter and make things easier
when they are older.

Jazakallah khair

Salam

[salsabila]

Assalam Alaikum sister,

i really really want to wear Niqab too sis! anyways. hmm.. okay it depends. do you still go to school? because you said you were higher than 13 and younger than 20 in your intro thread. so i can't really tell.

anyways. if you still go to school, I think you shouldn't start yet. I think you should finish school and then start. but if you are in uni, i think it would be okay to wear Niqab.

but about your mum.. don't really know what you should do. don't get her angry. thats what i know you shouldn't ever try do. i've had too much experience doing it and i don't like it.

you can rock up one day wearing it and then if she says anything, then don't put it on just yet and if she says nothing, then you wear it.

but yeah wait for your dad to come back. if he says you can, hopefully he can convince your mum Insha'Allah.

and if you can't wear it now because of your mum, when you are married Insha'Allah.

Walaikum Assalam

[AbdulQader]

Walaykom issalam,

In the mean time Sister, you may find THIS (http://www.sydneymuslimyouth.com/smyforum/showthread.php?t=2071&highlight=niqab) thread of interest.

^A Sister in the thread above was in a similar situation to yourself.

[Glory be to Allah]

Well I'm 14 and I'm home schooled so I it would not be out that much. Just to the masjid and store and to any meeting's with my teacher and so on.

My mom exactly said this if it helps

Me: So you don't really want me to wear it?

Mom: No, not really.

Later in the car

Me: (Sadly) why dont you want me to wear the niqab?

Mom: because your so young and you may want to wear it now but later you may want something else.
(translation: you dont know what you want.)

Me: but I've never been so sure of anything and I think it will bring me closer to allah and make me a better . . .

Mom: but Is't wearing a hijab enough. Allah asked us to wear to wear the hijab and were doing that. There's nothing wrong with wearing the hijab.
(Translation: you dont need to wear it.)

Me: (I just repeated all that stuff about it making me a stronger muslim and I said: Allah has given us every thing we have dont you fell like doing more than allah has told us to do?)

Mom: Said stuff about I'm enough protected with the hijab and how people here will make life harder on me.

Me: Thoughts: This is not going any where.

End of subject.

Inshallah this helps!

Salam.

And thanks to the person who gave me the link that helped a lot!

[Glory be to Allah]

Salam's

Sorry I forgot to add that I started wearing the niqab around the house and then she told me she didn't want me to wear it and I haven't been wearing it since.

Salam

[Covered Beauty]

Salamz

MashAllah sis you're only 14 and full wanting to wear the niqab.. May Allah swt reward and preserve you sis.

Look sis, in my opinion, if you're finding it hard to convince your mum right now maybe wait a few years until she at least thinks that you are "old enough" to wear it.. After all, shes just scared for your safety and wants the best for you and If by then she still doesn't allow you to wear it or is full against it, then inshAllah sis just wait until you get married :-)

Personally, I have a great liking for the niqab but when I think about wearing it, there are always positives and negatives to it. For example, in Australia there are places here where people accept it and other areas where some people may even attack you because of seeing you with it on. A positive would be that you are imitating the wives of the Prophet (S.a.w) and you're covered solely for the sake of Allah swt and also to keep eyes away from you (lol that was more than one positive, but hope you get what I mean)...

On ramadan I bought a niqab and came home. I thought my mum would scream at me when she saw me trying it on because we had old previous convos about it and my mum just saw it as being over board. Anyways that day, I came home, tried it on, walked up to my mum and started laughing and asked my mum if it was nice, (mind you, I thought I was going to get told off), but subhanAllah all my mum done was look at me and asked me where I got it from. But the unexpected reaction was from my little bro who told me to take it off and that I looked "scary"..:rolleyes: But alhamdulilah my father doesn't have a problem with it and when I first showed him it he told my mum "why dont you wear that?".. He and I both started to laugh because my mum wasn't even skarfed then haha.

Anyways so the point of the story up above is that you never know, her thought about the Niqab might change, if not now then later, patience is the key sis. Plus, alhamdulilah just by wearing the skarf appropriately is inshAllah enough to please Allah (swt) in regards to our dress code.

Continually make duaa and ask Allah for help..

Sorry if I wrote too much..

InshAllah all goes well, keep us updated inshAllah!

Salamz

[Glory be to Allah]

Salams

Thank you so much when I read that I just became so happy.

Yes Inshallah I will be patient.

That quote you have is so beautiful where did you get it???

[Covered Beauty]

Salamz

No worries sis, im glad you were happy when you read my post :-)

Do you mean my "colourful" signature? Truthfully i've had that on for a while now and cannot remember where I got it from subhanAllah.. Need to change it! hehe

Salamz

[Glory be to Allah]

hmmm

those old days

[sister18]

Was wondering sis if anythings happened since then? :mrgreen:

[Glory be to Allah]

wow..this reminds me of when i first found smy... memories!

well...i'm still not wearing the niqab, but I understand why...better now, so I don't feel sad or discouraged..

JazakAllah khiran sis for asking....

[sister18]

Wa iyaaki ukhti, is it ok if i ask what it is that you have come to understand, just curious :) you don't have to say ofcourse, only if you feel comfortable ;) baarakAllaahu feeki.