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    Assalamu 'Alaikum WB,

    Just read the thread "Mum You Owe Me", so I thought I'd post this thread up I read in another forum underlying the importance of our beloved parents :)


    PARENTS IN ISLAM

    I begin with the name of Allah the most merciful and the most kind, peace and

    blessing be upon beloved Prophet (S.A.W) All praise is for Allah.

    In Sura Al Ahqaf Allah(S.T) the most High has said: "And we have commanded
    man to do good to his parents. His mother bore him with great hardship and
    brought him forth in great pain. And the bearing and weaning are in thirty
    months until when he attains full strength and reached forty years, he said: O
    my lord! Inspire me that I may keep offering thanks for His favour which you
    bestowed on me and on my parents (and grant me strength) that I may do good
    deeds those of which you approve and make my offspring righteous for me.
    Truly I turn to you in repentance and surely I am of those who submits to your
    commandments in all humanity." (SURA 46 V15)

    MUSLIM BELIEF ABOUT HIS PARENTS

    A Muslim must believe that his real originator or creator(Al-Khaliq) is Allah(S.T) the

    most High but in this world, parents are the external cause of the existence of

    children. Allah(S.T) the most High is the real sustainer and cherisher of all of us but

    parents are gifted by Allah(S.T) to sustain and cherish their children with love and

    care. In other words parents of a child represent the Lordship of Allah(S.T) the most

    High.

    OUR OBLIGATIONS TO PARENTS

    In this verse of Sura Al-Ahqaf human being is commanded to treat his parents in

    every possible good way and manner by which he can achieve their pleasure and

    nearness. One who has true faith in the teachings of Islam must prove his faith by his

    practical behaviour towards his parents.

    HONOUR OF OUR MOTHER

    It is the great blessing of Allah(S.T) on all mothers that Allah(S.T) the most High has

    mentioned them in the Holy Quran to let us know and believe that we must not

    neglect our obligations towards her. In Hadith the order of serving the mother is given

    thrice. In the above mentioned verse too the mother is mentioned thrice first in the

    words

    (A) WALIDAIHI IHSANA (to do good to his parents and fathers both)

    (B) HAMALATHU UMMUHU (his mother bore him)

    İ WADAATHU (delivered him)

    When a Sahabi(companion) enquired "O Apostle of Allah! (S.T) who is the most

    (rightful) for my good association? He (Sall Allahu Alaihi Wassallam) said: "Your
    Mother." Then the person asked who is next, He (Sall Allahu Alaihi Wassallam)

    said: "Your Mother" the Sahabi said who is next, The prophet of Allah (Sall Allahu

    Alaihi Wassallam) said: "Your Mother" the sahabi enquired who is next? The

    messenger of Allah(Sall Allahu Alaihi Wassallam) said "your Father"(agreed upon)

    . In another Hadith it is mentioned:

    "Then your mother, then your mother, then your mother and then your father and then

    the nearest relatives."

    SEEK YOUR SALVATION BY GOOD BEHAVIOUR TO YOUR PARENTS

    Being grateful to your parents makes you grateful to Allah(S.T) and ungratefulness to

    them is ungratefulness to Allah(S.T). One who does not prove to be thankful to the

    parents, he is lacking thankfulness to Allah(S.T). Allah(S.T) said: "Be grateful to me
    and to both your parents(SURA Luqman Verse 14) one who showers
    gratefulness to his parents proved by good deeds and behaviour is blessed with
    Jannah(paradise), and the most unfortunate one is one who does not seek
    salvation by the true Khidmat shown by kindness in words and deeds."
    The (beloved) Messenger of Allah(SallAllahu Alaihi Wassallam) said: "May he be
    humbled(looses his honour) May he be humbled May he be humbled: It was
    said: who? O Messenger of Allah(Sall Allahu Alaihi Wassallam) the one who
    finds parents in their old age either one of them or both of them and yet does not
    enter paradise" (Sahih Muslim)

    JUDGE YOUR BEHAVIOUR TO YOUR PARENTS IN THE LIGHT OF

    DIVINE TEACHINGS

    Allah (S.T) said: "Your Lord has commanded that you must not worship non but
    Him alone and do good to your(both) parents. If either of both of them reach old
    age in your life time say not even UFF(Fie) to them say not to them a word of
    disrespect nor shout at them but address them in terms of honour." (Sura Al_Isra

    Verse 23).

    LOWER YOURSELF TO OLD PARENTS

    Every human being having reached old age needs more service and care. The society

    must not ignore the rights of senior members of the community. Allah(S.T) said:

    "And lower to them shoulders with humility and meekness and say my Lord

    have mercy upon them(both) as they brought me up when I was little." When we

    were weak and in need our parents did hard labour in nourishing and rearing us. They

    have performed numerous sacrifices for our comfort and welfare. They were the main

    source of our safety from a number of difficulties. As Allah(S.T) has mentioned we

    must sincerely ponder over the many hardships, which were taken by our parents for

    our comfort.

    CARING FOR EACH OTHERS PARENTS

    Abdullah ibn Umar(may Allah be pleased with him) reported that the Messenger of

    Allah(Sall Allahu Alaihi Wassallam) said: "A mans rebuking his parents is of the

    major sins. They (Sahaba) enquired; 'O (beloved) messenger of Allah(SallAllahu

    Alaihi Wassallam) does any man rebuke his own parents. He(SallAllahu Alaihi

    Wassallam) said Yes he who chides the father of a man who chides his father in return

    and he who chides the mother of a man who chides his mother(in return).

    DOOR OF PARADISE

    Our duties to parents are resembled with the gates of paradise by the beloved

    Messenger of Allah (Sall Allahu Alaihi Wassallam). He(SallAllahu Alaihi

    Wassallam) said: "Father or a parent is the best of the gate of paradise. So if you like,

    guard the gate or destroy it." Narrated by Imam Tirmizi and Ibn Maja


    OUR PARENTS HAPPINESS AND PLEASURE IS THE GREAT SOURCE OF

    ALLAH'S MERCY FOR US

    The Prophet (S.A.W) of Allah said: "The pleasure of the Lord is in the pleasure of
    the father, and the displeasure of the Lord is in the displeasure of the father"
    (Tirmidhi reported by Abdullah Ibn Amr).

    The prayers of our parents for us are also a great source of Allah's (S.W.T) blessing

    for us in this worldly life, as the Prophet of Allah said: "Nothing but supplication
    can annul predestination and nothing but obedience (kindness to them) to the
    parents can prolong life. A man is deprived of his provision for his sins he
    commits." (Ibn Maja reported by Thauban ).

    AN INTERESTING STORY IN THE HADITH.

    Ibn Omar reported that the (beloved) Prophet (S.A.W) said: "While three men were
    walking (travelling) the rain overtook them. Then they entered the cave of the
    mountain. While they were in the cave a huge rock of the mountain then fell down
    over the mouth of their cave and completely shut them in. In this difficult time there
    was no other obvious material source of rescue. They said to one another "let us
    recall the good deeds, which we did sincerely for Allah (S.W.T). Make dua
    (supplication) to Allah (S.W.T)" by mentioning those good deeds as a source of
    acceptance that He (S.W.T) may rescue us. So one of them mentioned one of his
    special deeds to Allah (S.W.T) by saying: "O Allah (S.W.T) I had old and weak
    parents and young children for whom I used to graze sheep. Whenever I went to
    them at night, I took milk and gave it first to my parents to drink before my
    children. One day I could not return home till it was evening. Then I found them
    (parents - mum and dad) had fallen asleep. I had came to them with milk as I used
    to do (and did not disturb their sleep) but I remained standing near their heads in
    the state of not liking to begin dinner with children before them (mum and dad),
    while the children were crying at my feet. This affair of theirs and mine continued
    till it was dawn. If my deed as you know was for to seek your pleasure then rescues
    us and make for us an opening from which we see the horizon according, Allah
    (S.W.T) made an opening from them till they saw the horizon. The other two also
    remembered their good deeds by which they made dua to Allah (S.W.T) in this
    difficult time and Allah (S.W.T) helped them and the huge rock was removed from
    the opening of the cave." (See Sahih Al-Bukhari & Sahih Al-Muslim)

    It has become very easy for us to understand that doing good for our parents and

    being obedient sons and daughters to them, we can become good servants to Allah

    (S.W.T). The huge rocks of difficulties will be removed from our ways if we can

    prove to be the helpful and beneficial to our fellow human beings.

    ROLE OF MOTHERS - IN UPBRINGING OF THE SOCIETY

    Mother is the first and most important teacher of every human being in every society.

    If the mother plays her role and is dutiful to Allah (S.W.T) concerning her child in the

    light of Islamic teachings then the children adopt the way of Jannah (paradise), which

    is the way towards peace and tranquillity of our life in this world and in the world

    here after.

    Abu Umamah reported that a man asked: "Ya RasulAllah (O messenger of Allah!)

    (S.A.W) what are the rights of parents over their children?" He (S.A.W) replied: "

    They (mum and dad) are your paradise and your hell" (Ibn Maja)


    WHAT CAN WE DO FOR PARENTS WHO HAVE PASSED AWAY?

    The answer is there in the Hadith reported by Abu Osaid Ibn Assaaidi who said that

    we were near the Holy Prophet (S.A.W) when a man of Banu Salma came to Him

    (S.A.W) and asked: "Ya RasulAllah (S.A.W) , Is there any obedience to parents left

    that I can show to them after their demise?" He (S.A.W) said: " YES! (You can be
    obedient to them) by praying for them, to seek forgiveness for them by fulfilling
    their instructions after their death, by keeping affinity to those who are not
    connected with you but through them and to honour their friends" (Abu Dawud and

    Ibn Maja)


    May Allah (SWT) grant us all the knowledge to understand Islam and its principals

    and the taufeeq to be well mannered towards our parents and all parents (Insha Allah).

    Please Allah accept out Zikr today and grant us your blessings and mercy.

    If I have made any mistakes or please Allah (SWT) forgive me.

    Ameen.

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    subhnallah very interesting inshaallah we need more of those articles
    يا أيها الذين امنوا ان تنصروا الله ينصركم ويثبت أقدامكم سوره محمد

    O you who believe! If you give victory to Allah, He will grant you with victory and will make your foothold firm.

    surat muhammad verse 7

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    Salamz
    Jazaks for the post bro!

    "No amount of guilt can change the past and no amount of worrying can change the future. Go easy on yourself for the outcome of all affairs is determined by Allah's Decree. If something is meant to go elsewhere, it will never come on your way, but if it is yours by destiny, from you it cannot flee.''
    (Umar ibn al-Khattab r.a)


    Indeed, with every hardship comes ease, with every hardship comes ease." (Surah94: 5-6)

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    A very good reminder.
    Wherever you are, death will find you , even if you are towers built up strong and high. (Quran 4:78)

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    just want to say actions speak louder than words, we must be grateful for all our parents have done alhumdullah.

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    Mum and Dad, If you see this, ILOVEYOU (L) ;D Fank you for everything
    Whoever follows patience, success will follow him

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